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Moms Talk Q&A: Who's the Better Mother? Stay at Home or Working?

Each week we take a questions, give advice and ask for your opinions.

There was a woman in the news recently that gave up her children to go off into the workforce, she simply did not want to be a mother any longer. While this is certainly an extreme case, many women are confronted with the decision of being a "working" mom or a "stay at home" mom.

Some mothers may not have a choice as they need to go to work to help support their household, others do it by choice. Many mothers have gone through extensive schooling and are very career oriented. They do not want to give up their formative working years, just to be a mother. The balance has changed greatly over the years. Whereas most women were homemakers and mothers 10-20 years ago, now they have their own career aspirations. They want to be the best they can both at the office and at home. Some feel like they can have the perfect balance, they enjoy their work while away from home and then are more focused on spending quality time with their family because they realize that time is often limited.

"Stay at home" moms, on the other hand, feel lucky to be able to stay home with their kids. They know they also have a tough job, but it can also be very rewarding. They get instant gratification because they get to see and be present for most or all of their children's various milestones and accomplishments. Others feel like their "job" of a homemaker may sometimes be overlooked or not taken seriously. They feel like they have an image that they are watching soap operas and relaxing
all day.

Regardless if you're a "working" mom or "stay at home" mom, anyone that spends quality time with their kids knows how important  d ait is to break away too. Mothers need to be able to balance their lives no matter how they choose to live them. So when confronted with this question, of "Who's the better mother" stay at home or working? I really don't believe there is an correct answer. It really is up to the specific parent to be able to make the most of their time with their children. Finding that balance can be the real challenge. Thoughts?

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